How to stop beating yourself up everyday

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It is difficult to focus on the daily things that matter when you have all parts of your brain fixated only on the end result.

Influencers show you how perfectly curated their lives are.

Productivity gurus make you feel like you are wasting every second of your life when you’re not “busy”

Business owners who seem to have a million sales every day make you want to change every strategy you have carefully created that does not seem to be working.

Fitness coaches make you count every calorie and punish yourself for every late night snack you eat.

“What is wrong with me? Why can’t I be lie that? What am I doing wrong? How do I wake up every day and have a perfectly productive and fulfilling day?”

Well, you don’t.

Because you make a mistake even with the first thought that your life is meant to follow the exact lane with someone else’s. Nature is busy trying to make your story unique, but you keep spoiling it by complaining and waking up every day, wishing you were someone else.

So, what do I want you to do about this?

First, you need to stop. Stop the comparison, not just by telling yourself that you need to stop, but by falling in love with your own journey. I haven’t exercised in a month and a half, and I have felt like crap. In retrospect, my body got tired of me forcing it to become something new in such a short period, and it just didn’t want that. My brain told me to stop, and I did for a while. Right now, I feel like I can’t wait to go back to exercising as from tomorrow. And no, it’s not because I judged myself so much this night and got angry with what I’ve been doing. I just really want to exercise again.

Dear reader, please fall in love with yourself. Acknowledge your flaws first, get to know exactly who you are, without judgment or criticism or comparison. If you feel the need to change something, give a genuine answer to the question “why?” Strive to be a better version of yourself every day, because of yourself.

I didn’t write this piece because I felt angry that I haven’t posted an article in more than a week. I felt the need to remind you that your flawed story matters. We need to hear it. It’s sad that most of us grew up in conditions where nobody wants to hear the difficult parts of our stories, just the happy endings. But you need to remind yourself that you can’t push forward without setbacks. You can’t aspire to grow past your limits if there are no seeming limits in the first place.

Dare to love your flaws and acknowledge your setbacks in a world that preaches otherwise. Live every single day, not just for the goal you want to achieve, but for the day itself. You don’t want to finally achieve those goals and then realize you’ve been a slavery to expectations and perfections all through your journey.

And please don’t let the shackles of periodical motivation hold you down. Look at every day as one having its own liveliness and awe. Live every day in an awesome way, even the bad days. Forget those “ideal” goal oriented people, I mean, create your own realistic goals that resonate with who you truly are. And when you find yourself feeling down and needing a push, don’t forget:

“You’re not supposed to be perfect. You’re just supposed to be you, exactly the way you are.”

Thanks for reading!



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I write about my journey as a creator and habits that have helped improve my productivity and accomplish set goals.